Itchy Hands

Rules of thumb of dating for guys

Dating, being in a relationship and falling in love are really fun things. Unfortunately, a majority of guys are clueless when it comes to these things. It’s especially painful to watch 17-year olds go through break-ups and have thoughts of wanting to end their lives because the guy had no clue.

I think the problem is that guys need some clear steps in what to do. The reason guys like to play soccer is because the game, while complicated, has clear boundaries and rules that they understand. So, I’d like to present some rules of thumb of dating for guys. Hopefully these tips will help guys out there to be a little less clueless when it come to dating.

Call her at least once a day. This is the most important rule of thumb, no two ways about it. If you can’t call, send her an SMS or email. With SMS or email, you need to do better. Send at least 3 SMS and make sure you put an effort into the email.

Say something nice about her everytime you see her. Note the salient points: what you say must be about her, i.e. “Hey, you look nice today” NOT “Hey, your phone is super cool”. However, it is ok to say you like her clothes, because it goes back to her fashion sense and looks, and all girls like to be fashionable and look good.

Buy her something nice once in a while. Girls like to be pampered, and they always appreciate simple gestures like buying her a simple present. It doesn’t need to be expensive, something under RM10 is enough, unless she’s a spoilt, money-minded brat. By the way, that’s a present, NOT lunch. It’s not as easy as it sounds to buy her something cheap yet meaningful. It requires thought and effort, and that’s what makes it meaningful. If you go away for a while on a business trip / school trip, you absolutely MUST get her a souvenir.

Put some effort into the way you look. You chased, and now you’ve landed the girl. That doesn’t mean you don’t need to look nice when you’re going out with her now. Make sure you brush your teeth. And use soap when you bathe. Don’t forget to wash your underarms and use deodorant at least.

Treat her how she deserves to be treated. Speak politely to her. Don’t raise your voice at her and sure as hell DON’T EVER hit her. Remember she’s not your mother and don’t expect her to pamper you. Don’t be a cheapo and expect her to pay for dinner. Don’t make her wait unnecessarily. Talking about waiting, there’s ONE EXCEPTION. If it ever comes down to a decision where its your girlfriend or your mom who has to wait, make sure it’s not mom. Mom carried you for 9 months, she deserves no sh*t from you at all.

She’s the priority. If she’s your girlfriend, it means she’s more special than other girls, and you have to treat her that way. That means she’s more important than you Playstation or Xbox. More important than work (but not as important as school because your parents will ban you from seeing her if your grades suffer). You CANNOT have her as your girlfriend but spend more time with your lab partner. If you really are spending more time with your lab partner, give it up, we all know she’s more than a lab partner.

That’s all I’ve got for the moment. If you have any more, feel free to leave a comment below.

This entry was posted on Monday, December 5th, 2005 at 3:43 am and is filed under Uncategorized. You can follow any responses to this entry through the RSS 2.0 feed. You can leave a response, or trackback from your own site.